Committing yourself to constant improvement is a lofty task to take on.
Many people say they want to continually grow, but the reality of growth is not something we are actually wired to enjoy. Growth happens two ways.
- Learn something totally new that we know nothing about
- Learn something new about a topic we have previous experience with
I want to dig into the second growth point. Learning something new about a topic we already have experience with. When our brains start to receive information that is different or in contrast to something we already know our body actually physically responds. Simply put, we start to sweat, our heart rate increases, and our cortisol levels increase. Our brain is actually in the process of trying to listen to a new thought, but our neuronal network already has a mapped-out belief of that thought. This is called stress! That means we have to be willing to push through the physical discomfort and be committed to truly mapping the new way of thinking.
(much more on this thought that falls into the neuroscience of leadership Neuroscience of Leadership )
At work we all want to continually improve because continual improvement means title advancements, more money, and more recognition. It feels good to be better at what we do.
So why does it seem so difficult to get people in our business moving forward consistently?
Why do people stall after a few years of building their business?
The answer I want to focus on is we that we stop actively listening to feedback. Sometimes it because we may not be receiving feedback. Or maybe we are receiving feedback but the person giving the feedback isn’t someone we take feedback well from. However in many cases the lack of growth is because we aren’t getting the feedback at all. Feedback is a gift. It is a jewel that we should all be seeking continually. Do you always remember everything that you said in a conversation after you finished it? Likely the answer is no, but the person you were talking to probably remembers a good deal of it. They would be able to summarize quite simply what you were talking about. Other people are like a mirror for us. They can reflect back what we say and do, which constitutes a behavior. Those behaviors produce our results.
If you don’t have feedback in your work environment seek out someone who can give it to you. It may not feel comfortable at first, but it will help you grow!
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Ps. Be sure whoever you seek feedback from is someone who you respect and who has the desire to be candid. Sugar coating feedback doesn’t help anyone.